How negative thoughts can harm your health

“One person with a belief is equal to a force of ninety-nine who have only interests.” 
― John Stuart Mill

Our beliefs are so powerful they drive our behaviours, control our actions and ultimately shape our destinies. Have you ever considered why you believe what you believe? Where do your beliefs come from? Most of us go around on auto pilot with our lives being controlled by a set of beliefs that may be limiting us or empowering us. It doesn`t matter whether they are "right"or "wrong", "true" or "false". It only matters whether they are helping or hindering us. Since the majority of our beliefs were instilled in us at a very young age don`t you think it might be a good idea to occasionally question their validity? If perception is reality and we become what we think about. What are you thinking about? What do you believe about your world and yourself? Before you answer, think very carefully. It`s very possible your beliefs could kill or cure you. Check out the following article and video by Dr. Lissa Rankin and make your own mind up.

"Most of us have heard of “the placebo effect”—the heal-inducing effect patients in clinical trials experience when they believe they’re getting a fancy new drug or surgery but are actually getting fake treatment. The placebo effect is real. It works about eighteen to eighty percent of the time, and it’s not just in your head—it actually dilates bronchi, heals ulcers, makes warts disappear, drops your blood pressure, and even makes bald men who think they’re getting Rogaine grow hair!

Unwanted Side Effects

But the placebo effect has a shadow side. The same mind-body power that can heal you can also harm you. When patients in double-blinded clinical trials are warned about the side effects they may experience if they’re given the real drug, approximately twenty-five percent experience sometimes severe side effects, even when they’re only taking sugar pills.

Those treated with nothing more than placebos often report fatigue, vomiting, muscle weakness, colds, ringing in the ears, taste disturbances, memory disturbances, and other symptoms that shouldn’t result from a sugar pill.

Interestingly, these “nocebo” complaints aren’t random; they tend to arise in response to the side effect warnings on the actual drug or treatment. The mere suggestion that a patient may experience negative symptoms in response to a medication (or a sugar pill) may be a self-fulfilling prophecy. For example, if you tell a patient treated with a placebo he might experience nausea, he’s likely to feel nauseous. If you suggest that he might get a headache, he may. Patients given nothing but saline who thought it was chemotherapy actually threw up and lost their hair!

When You Think You’re Going to Die

In another study, patients about to undergo surgery who were “convinced” of their impending death were compared to another group of patients who were merely “unusually apprehensive” about death. While the apprehensive bunch fared pretty well, those who were convinced they were going to die usually did.

Similarly, women who believed they were prone to heart disease were four times more likely to die. It’s not because these women had poorer diets, higher blood pressure, higher cholesterol, or stronger family histories than the women who didn’t get heart disease. The only difference between the two groups was their beliefs.

The nocebo effect is probably most obvious in “voodoo death”—when a person is cursed, told they will die, and then dies. The notion of voodoo death doesn’t just apply to witch doctors in tribal cultures. The literature shows that patients believed to be terminal who are mistakenly informed that they have only a few months to live have died within their given time frame, even when autopsy findings reveal no physiological explanation for the early death.

Dr. Steve’s Story

In response to what I said in my latest TEDx talk about the placebo effect’s evil twin, “the nocebo effect,” L. Chas sent me an email, telling me the story of her brother Steve, who was a physician diagnosed with the exact same illness that was his specialty. When he was diagnosed with malignant tumors in both lungs, his doctors told him that he had five years to live, and knowing what he knew about the disease, Steve believed this.

Exactly five years later, to the day, he was snorkeling in Maui when he was found unconscious on the shore. Steve was resuscitated, but he had been without oxygen to the brain for over four minutes and wound up in a coma until his family chose to withdraw life support.

L. Chas wrote, “More than anything else, I think my brother believed that, when diagnosed with his disease, a patient has ‘five good years left.’ Just as you’ve said in your videos: the nocebo effect. So sad it had to go this way.”

Medical Hexing

Every time your doctor tells you that you have an “incurable” illness or that you’ll be on medication for the rest of your life or that you have a five-percent five-year survival, they’re essentially cursing you with a form of “medical hexing.” They don’t mean to. They’re not trying to harm you. They know not what they do.

Doctors think they’re telling it to you straight, that you deserve to know, that you should be realistic and make arrangements, if necessary. But when they say such things, they instill in your conscious and subconscious mind a belief that you won’t get well, and as long as the mind holds this negative belief, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you’ll never recover, you won’t.

The Moral of This Story

After reading through the 3500+ case studies documented in the medical literature in the Spontaneous Remission Project, which was compiled by the Institute of Noetic Sciences, I now believe there’s no such thing as an incurable illness. If you or someone you love is suffering from a “chronic,” “incurable,” or “terminal” illness and you want to optimize the chance for spontaneous remission, you have to start by cleansing your mind of any negative beliefs that will sabotage your self-healing efforts. My upcoming book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself offers tips for how you can change your negative beliefs to positive ones in order to optimize your chances".

What do you think? What do you believe?

"Fake it till you make it!"

You can create confidence and overcome fears by changing your physiology. By changing your body postures and practicing "Power Poses" even for a few minutes you can enhance your confidence levels and your results by a significant factor. In this presentation, Amy Cuddy explains how small changes can produce big outcomes. Brilliant stuff!

you`ve ever had pre interview or pre presentation nerves that have ruined your performance, this will help enormously.

Key Quote

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.
Norman Vincent Peale

The Power of Belief - Never Give Up!

Never believe and accept limitations placed upon you by others. There will always be lots of people telling what you can and can`t do, what you are supposed to do given your age, condition, gender etc. It`s all irrelevant. What really matters is what you believe. What you want to achieve.Never give up on your dream.

Quote of the day

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. 
Harriet Beecher Stowe 

"Slaying the Dragon" - Dealing with Low Self Esteem

This is possibly the most potent and destructive limiting belief of them all. I believe that having low self esteem is at the root of many of our social problems.  If you don`t feel good about yourself; If you don`t value yourself; if you don`t feel you are a worthy person, it becomes very difficult to give those gifts to other people. I believe one of the most valuable things you can give to someone else is the gift of raising their self esteem. Certainly as a parent, there can be no finer gift you can give to your child than that of a healthy self esteem. It is far more important than any amount of material possessions. In today`s have-it-all, instant gratification society, it seems all too easy for many parents to substitute the tangible for the intangible.

 We live in an age of unprecedented wealth and opportunity. The media is constantly encouraging us to lavish the latest “stuff” on our children. The message being that if we don`t, we are not being good parents, we don`t love our children enough! A family I know very well has a son who said to them whilst on holiday in America, “If you really loved me you`d buy me this watch”. (He already owned five at home which he rarely wore!) The creation of a healthy self esteem is a product of the right environment and a loving relationship, not an unlimited bank account!

Why is it important?

The danger of low self esteem can be seen in many of society`s misfits. Remember when you were in school. Wasn`t there always a classroom bully? Did anyone actually like this person? The answer was invariably no. Many people pretended to be their friends in order to escape being bullied themselves. Bullies, thugs and loudmouths were, and still are, universally unpopular. So why would they behave in such a way?

They do it because being the way they are gives them a feeling of significance and at a deep level everyone needs to feel significant. Some achieve this through academia, by being the straight “A” student. Others get that feeling by excelling at sport while still others make people laugh. The reality is that none of this actually works unless it is built on a healthy foundation. For many people, it is merely papering over the cracks. Why else would many celebrity superstars press the self destruct button when they appear to have it all?  

In the U.S.A back in the 1930s, the public enemy number one was a gangster called John Dillinger. When the law finally caught up with him and he was cornered, his last act of defiance was to break into a house, put a gun to the heads of the occupants and scream,

“Do you know who I am??”

 When they failed to answer through sheer terror, he said,

“I`m John Dillinger … and don`t you forget it!”

 Even to the very end he still had the need to feel significant. When you are empty inside, carrying a weapon gives you an instant feeling of significance. Being quick with a cutting put down or a biting sarcastic quip gives you an instant feeling of significance. The only problem is, you can never raise your self esteem by damaging someone else’s. The people who truly feel good about themselves have no need to prove anything.

 Have you ever been involved in a group discussion were people have been vying to have their point of view heard and accepted? Where there was clearly an argument to be “won”?

 If you have the facts, and you know the person holding court hasn`t, isn`t it tempting to boost your ego and score some public points at their expense? The fact is, you don`t make yourself bigger by making others smaller. If you feel the need to win arguments and win fights to make you feel good, then there is clearly something missing.

“Why can`t you be smart like your brother?”

So if self esteem is so important, where exactly does it come from?  How you feel about yourself to a very large degree stems from how others feel about you.  You were first exposed to the notion of self esteem when you were a child.  You didn`t know it at the time, but it became clear that for you to feel good, other people were involved.  How you felt about yourself was largely determined by how your parents thought about you and more importantly, how they communicated that feeling to you. After all, what did you know about you, about life, about anything?

 Everything you knew for certain was taught to you by your parents or guardians. You had no history, no reference points, no understanding of logic. If you were told something, you just believed it as the truth. Imagine growing up listening to this,

“You are such a clumsy boy! Can`t you do anything right?”

“Why can`t you be like your brother. He is always a good boy!”

“You are such a stupid girl. You just don`t listen!”

If you were to listen to that on a regular basis, how do you think you would feel? Good about yourself? Or would you feel that you were obviously stupid or clumsy? To many people, those comments might seem fairly innocuous; just a slip of the tongue that anyone might be guilty of. After all, we are all human. Unfortunately, it is because we are human that these things happen. We often don`t think about what we are saying and very few of us consider the consequences of those words. The result is that those kind of poisonous programmes are planted at an early age and proceed to do their damage during those critical formative years.

It is said that by the time the average child reaches the age of 18 yrs. old they have heard the words, “No!” and “You can`t!” 148,000 times! Their personal belief systems about what they can and cannot do are well and truly programmed.

There was one little girl who grew up thinking her name was “Laura Dammit” because her parents had used that expression so many times when chastising her! You may remember the model and actress Paula Hamilton who became famous for advertising the Volkswagen Golf some years ago. Here was a stunningly beautiful woman who was successful and wealthy and sabotaged her success and her life by becoming addicted to drink and drugs. She once told an interviewer that she knew by the age of 4 yrs. old she would fail. What kind of childhood would create such a self fulfilling prophecy?

  If you add on to that negative programming further put downs about their behaviours and capabilities, it becomes clear why the average teenager has a well developed sense of inferiority and low self esteem. It is from then onwards that they try to compensate and attempt to achieve significance in the world through other means.

Heroes recognise where real self esteem comes from. They recognise that until you feel good about yourself for who you are, not what you have done, you cannot build real self esteem in others. Once you have slain the dragon of low self esteem, you will feel liberated and be on a quest to free others.

Think of your circle of influence? Who do you know who could benefit from a self esteem boost today? For something so small, it can have a tremendous impact.  

“It was nothing!”

An ex girlfriend of mine was shopping (one of her favourite hobbies!) and as she went to the check - out to pay, the person at the till commented upon her dress saying how great it looked. You would be amazed at what an impact that had!

An unsolicited compliment from a complete stranger. Wow! It somehow has more potency than a compliment from a good friend. After all, this person had nothing to gain from what she said. She just gave a gift to a stranger. Has that ever happened to you? Isn`t it remarkable how it makes you feel? By the way, my partner responded in the only way you should respond to a compliment, by saying “thank you”. Have you noticed that the most common response tends to be something like,

“It was nothing”

“You shouldn`t have”

“Oh, this…it`s just something I threw on!”

“Don`t mention it”

All of which are lies! If you have worked hard cooking a lovely meal for someone and they compliment you on it and you respond with a “don`t mention it”. The next time maybe they won`t! It seems to be an all too common trait of being unable to accept a well meaning compliment. If your self esteem is good enough, you accept it with thanks. 

Self Esteem Building Tips –

1.     Build your self esteem by compiling a “success log”. This is a really powerful exercise. Start by writing down everything you have ever done that you were proud of. It is important to log everything! Go back as far as you can remember. When I began compiling my “success log” I even included my cycling proficiency badge! To many people it would seem trivial, but remember, this isn`t for anyone else, this is for you! You will be amazed at how long a list you can create. Once you have started, it will keep on growing as you add to it on a regular basis. Whenever you feel the need for a self esteem boost, just look at your “Success log” to remind yourself just how good you really are!

2.     Get into the habit of regular “self praise”. Whenever you do anything well, give yourself a mental pat on the back. Don`t wait for others to do it for you.

3.     Remember to feed yourself with regular positive self talk, especially when the dragon of self doubt rears his ugly head.

4.     Learn to accept compliments

5.     Learn to give more compliments

6.     Look after yourself. It`s hard to have healthy self esteem if you look and feel unkempt and unfit.

7.     Spend as much time as possible around good, positive people.

8.     Read books that will inspire and motivate you.

Source: "Natural Born Heroes" - Brian Gibbons

Key Quote

"Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment"  - Thomas Carlyle 

If laughter is the best medicine, why wait!