7 Laws of Fearless Living

Don't believe what the spiritual sharks and clever carnival hustlers tell you about fearless living -- they lie. But you already sense the truth of this, or you wouldn't still be looking for ways to escape those everyday fears that stalk your happiness like a lion does the unwary gazelle.

The deepest parts of you know that if freedom from fear was as easy as "creating a new reality" for yourself, then you would already be the fearless person you know in your heart that you're meant to be. It's just not that easy... which brings us to a great liberating truth, an insight you must prove to yourself before you can know its power to dismantle any fear.

When it comes to the fearless life, the divine gives nothing freely... save to those who freely give themselves to discovering the truth about their own fearless selves. The good news is that this supreme confidence and calm already lives within you, needing only your realization of its unshakable presence in order to empower you with the fearlessness you seek.

The following seven laws are like a golden invitation to your own coronation. To "open" each one and receive its royal instruction about how to live free of fear, you need do only one thing: Ask sincerely that you might understand its secret message, and then, when the answer comes,welcome those insights as long-lost friends -- for that is exactly what they are. They will do the rest for you.

1. When you know that what you're looking for is what you already are -- and not what you may become -- you stand on the threshold of fearless living.
2. No psychological fear exists without negative imagination.
3. When it comes to fear, the feel is real... but the "why" is a lie.
4. You cannot change one thing about times past or the fears that belong to old regrets, but you can be in a different relationship with what is happening to you right now -- and thatchanges everything!
5. Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.
6. Your experience of any moment -- good or bad, calm or conflicted -- is a direct reflection of your understanding about it. This means that the only thing that frightens you about any event is what you've yet to understand about yourself.
7. The universe itself is actually set up for you to succeed with realizing the fearless life, which means that you are made for whatever happens to you!

Now to these seven laws, let's add three additional facts that will help prove the possibility of a fearless life. Taken alone, each of the following statements supplies insight into the seemingly impenetrable darkness that surrounds any fear. Taken altogether, these bright new facts reveal a whole new understanding that penetrates fear's protective shell, dispelling both the feared and the fearful at once. The light that remains is freedom.

We can either spend our lives struggling to protect ourselves from our fears -- which is the general existence of the unconscious masses -- or we can learn how to use our lives to discover that, in reality, there is no self to fear, and that the shaky world perceived by this shadow-self is but its own unreal shadow. The good news is that it's possible to learn so much about the nature of fear that one day, it simply runs out of ways to make you believe in its shaking.

No fact is frightening unless it runs into conflict with what you want. When this happens, the fear is not in the event, but in you -- who have decided that in order to feel secure, life must jump through your hoop. The fear you feel is in your hoop, not in the fact that life may have jumped unexpectedly.

Last but by no means least of these fear-busting ideas is this final fact and implied action: It is in your power to discover that who you really are has nothing to fear, but that you make yourself fearful each time you look outside of yourself for some power to make you feel fearless.

By Guy Finley

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Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.
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“Far better to live your own path imperfectly than to live another’s perfectly.” -Bhagavad Gita

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Unleash your potential by getting rid of your false beliefs

Why do we have limited potential?

Have you been to the circus lately?
I know it's an odd question to ask in a self-development article but just be patient. In the circus you'll find clowns, gymnasts and animals of all sorts and sizes, but there is one animal that you're almost guaranteed to find. It's the elephant. If you think about it, you'll find that the elephant is a huge animal. If it ever decides to run away, it could cause serious chaos and disruption in the whole neighborhood. The question is: Why doesn't the elephant try to escape?

Whenever a new elephant is brought to the circus, it is chained to a heavy iron ball. The elephant struggles in vain to escape. Everyday, the elephant repeatedly tries to escape until it finally loses hope of ever being free. The elephant has built up a false belief of the impossibility to escape. Even when the chains are removed, it will never try to escape again.

You've been Brainwashed

All of us have been in that elephant's situation at some point of our life. It's not our fault. We're being brainwashed everyday by our friends, colleagues and the media. Society is always creating certain 'barriers' that are supposedly impenetrable to any normal human being. They are simply out of reach, except if you're a genius or very lucky. Here is a list of some false beliefs that you may have acquired throughout your life:

• I can't learn a new sport now, I should have started when I was a kid.
• It's very hard to find a decent job these days, there is no way I could ever have a proper job.
• No one gets everything in life. You have to choose.
• When you get married you won't have time for any activities.
• I can't quit smoking. Even if I could, it will only be temporarily.
• I'm not lucky. If I had been lucky I would have had everything that I wanted.
• Luck DOES exist!

How false beliefs change people's lives

If you're still taking the issue lightheartedly, let me tell you a story that will change your perspective of things. It revolves around two friends: Joe and Bob, who were used to hang out and play basketball together regularly.

Joe, in particular, was taught by his parents that no one gets everything in life.
Joe and Bob started applying for jobs, and - by coincidence - they both got an interview at the same company. After passing the interview, they were told that the job requires them to work 12 hours a day with only one day off per week. This meant that whoever accepted the job would have to quit playing basketball, because he won't have enough time. Joe thought: "Well, I can't get everything in life. I'll accept the job and give up basketball" and so he took the job. Bob, on the other hand thought: "No, thanks. I'm sure there's a better job somewhere that suits my schedule. After all, I don't want to give up my favorite sport." and didn't accept the job.

After few months, Joe started to feel that something was missing in his life. He`d got used to the good mood that accompanies regular exercising and his brain had got used to getting more oxygen.

As a result, Joe started to feel depressed without knowing why. He even left his job, thinking that it was the reason for his unhappiness.

When people live in a Virtual World

Stories such as these happen everyday because there are people who have similar false beliefs. Most people are unaware of their powers. Some people are held back only by these false beliefs, even though they have many abilities and opportunities for advancement. They convince themselves that they are fine and that this is the way life was meant to be. Those people describe life from their own unique perspective without paying any attention to the real reality.

Lots of people do not take enough actions to improve their lives

Some people do not try to learn anything new and they believe that it's so hard to get a decent job, regardless of how well you're skilled. They indulge in bad habits like smoking and drugs and think that they can never give it up. Some people quit sports and get fat, thinking that their marriage and career should consume their whole time. "Well, you can't get everything in life, can you?" they say.

Some people even go a step further and stay broken for years after breaking up just because of false beliefs, in my book How to get over anyone in few days I described how false beliefs like "He is the one" or "He is my soul mate" can prevent you from recovering fast. A key element in getting over breakups in a short period of time is identifying these false beliefs then dealing with them.

Challenge Your Beliefs

It gets really funny when people start spreading false beliefs without even TESTING them. I was once seeking a certain computer certification and whenever I asked someone about it I was told that it's very hard to pass the exam.

I admit that at the beginning I was about to believe them but then I decided to ask those people "What is so difficult about the exam?". You'll be astonished by the reply: "We don't know. We never tried to take it." These people believed that the exam was so hard just because other people told them so!

So most people say things and spread beliefs that they haven't even tested!!
What's the correct action to take when you get to deal with such people?

First, you should test those opinions. If someone told you that you can't lift that box over there then don't just take his word for it, go and try it by yourself. Just because he couldn't lift it doesn't mean that you can't either. Similarly, if someone didn't have the qualities required to land a job, it doesn't mean that you don't have these qualities. People differ in their qualities, strengths and weaknesses. To sum it up:

"If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right." - Henry Ford

Written by M.Farouk Radwan, MSc. 

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HOW TO CONQUER 3 OF YOUR MOST LIMITING CAREER FEARS

Whether you’re looking to start your own business, are a recent college grad looking to embark on a more traditional career path, or are un(der)-employed and looking for a fresh start, we all face the same obstacles. Three of them, in fact — and they hold us back from finding the job of our dreams, embarking on the career that will finally fulfill us or working towards creating the startup we’ve always wished for.

Obstacle #1: Fear of Failure

The vast majority of us (especially women) consistently and unequivocally grew up trying not to fail. In class, on the field and in relationships, we heard one message loud and clear: failure is bad. You avoided an F on an exam like it was the black plague, only tried out for the sports teams you thought you had a relatively good chance of making, and have likely – at one point or another – compromised yourself in the context of a relationship just to avoid failure.

However, failure is a necessary step on the path to success. It allows you to push past your comfort zone and find the true limits of your success without regard to what you think those limits may be. As Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

In careers, our fear of failure is present when we don’t apply for a job because we’re not sure we’re qualified (that’s why there are applications, you’re not supposed to know) or when we put our brilliant startup idea on the back burner because it may not work out (most don’t, that’s part of the process).

To get over this fear, ask yourself one thing: “What’s the worst that can happen?” Moreover, you need to write down all of the ways you could possibly fail and what exactly that would look like. Every. Single. One. You may think that writing it all down and thinking it all through is a defeatist way of embarking on a career, but it’s quite the opposite. In addressing all of your fears, you will realize that even if every single one of them comes true, it wouldn’t be that bad. The fear of failing will not only become more manageable, but also likely become less palpable than your fear of regret. From here, you’ll be well on your way to the job of your dreams.

Obstacle #2: Pursuit of Perfection

In working so diligently not to fail, many of us have become obsessed with perfection. When I was first launching TheBeautyBean.com, I was intent on it being perfect. I remember meeting Lewis Howes at a sports networking event prior to launch and he said something like, “What are you waiting for? Done is better than good.” I resisted, sure that I knew best and that perfect was precisely what I was going to launch with.

Three years later I can say two things: first, Lewis was completely right (sorry about that!) and second, nothing is ever perfect. When we let go of the idea of perfection and embrace the mantra, “progress, not perfection,” we are able to take chances, knowing that a step forward is better than waiting around.

Perfect doesn’t exist. It never will. And while you’re sitting around waiting for it, someone else is making progress. Don’t worry too much about figuring out exactly what you want to do with your life right now. It will change. Often! Instead, take a step in the right direction.

Obstacle #3: Fear of Quitting

“No one likes a quitter” — or so they say. Well, they are wrong. Quitting is actually great, if you do it correctly. As Seth Godin has said, “You should quit if the project you’re working on has a Dip that isn’t worth the reward at the end.” If that’s the case, it’s to your best advantage to quit often and quit fast.

One of the most limiting lessons that many of us have internalized is this idea that once we’ve already put a lot of work into something, we should see it through to the end. However, if you know something is going to fail (which isn’t a bad thing) or if you just aren’t enjoying it anymore, then the work you’ve already put in is a sunk cost. It’s done; it’s time you’re never getting back. Accept this and move on, because the more time you continue to put in to pursuing something that won’t come to fruition – either due to your lack of passion or possibility – the more time you’re wasting.

Remember: failure is essential, perfection is overrated, quitting is smart.

http://theyec.org/how-to-conquer-3-of-your-most-limiting-career-fears/

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"I am an ordinary men, living an EXTRAORDINARY LIFE, How I do it???, I work on the EXTRA every day!!!" - Jorge Larios

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"Winner vs Loser" - It`s always a choice

The Winner is always part of the answer;
The Loser is always part of the problem.
The Winner is always has a programme;
The Loser always has an excuse.
The Winner says, “Let me do it for you;
The Loser says;" That is not my job"
The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
The Winner says," It may be difficult but it is possible";
The Loser says, “It may be possible but it is too difficult."
When a Winner makes a mistake, he says," I was wrong";
When a Loser makes a mistake, he says," It wasn't my fault."
A Winner makes commitments;
A Loser makes promises.
Winners have dreams;
Loser have schemes.
Winners say," I must do something";
Losers say, “Something must be done."
Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.
Winners see the gain;
Losers see the pain.
Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.
Winners believe in win/win; Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.
Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.
Winners are like a thermostat;
Losers are like thermometers.
Winners choose what they say;
Losers say what they choose.
Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;
Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.
Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: "Don't do to others what you would, not want them to do to you";
Losers follow the philosophy, "Do it to others before they do it to you."
Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

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Where are your "Psychic Vampires"?

Have you ever met someone at a social function and taken an instant dislike to them? Don't you think its strange how we make judgements about people we hardly know or even worse, we dislike them from a distance before we've even been introduced! Ever wondered why?

One powerful reason is the energy we emit. Some people just radiate negative energy. These are the "Psychic Vampires." You know the type. When they enter a room, it suddenly goes cold as if they've sucked the life and warmth from it! They carry an air of gloom and despondency about with them.

Just as the vampires of horror movies would drain the blood of their victims, the Psychic Vampires drain the positive energies of all those who come into contact with them. They are the kind of people who after talking to you for ten minutes leave you feeling considerably worse than before you met them! Do you know someone like that?

These are the people who never have a positive word to say about anyone or anything. They are always quick to criticise, condemn and complain. At meetings, they will be the first ones to point out why a new initiative won't work. In any organisation everyone knows who the Psychic Vampires are. They are often the butt of people's jokes, but in reality they are far from funny.

These people are extremely dangerous. They are toxins on legs. They can and do, damage your most valuable asset - your attitude. We are all aware how one rotten apple can ruin a whole barrel. If one Psychic Vampire can destroy an entire team what can should you do? Here are some strategies that may help:-

1. Avoid them! Steer clear! If they are walking towards you, cross the street! Leave the room! Just keep away. It sounds extreme, but if that's what it takes!

2. As Jack Black from Mindstore suggested, why not imagine a huge imaginary bell jar descending over you as they speak that automatically deflects all the negative they are spouting! If you smile at the same time it doubles the effect!

3. Simply stop them. Refuse to listen to them and tell them so. Tell them to come back when they have something positive to contribute.

4. Counter them. Whenever they make a negative statement, counter it with a positive one. Imagine it as verbal fencing and keep parrying the negative, but make sure you have the final riposte!

Whatever happens, these people must not be allowed to thrive in organisations by sucking the lifeblood and positive energies from everyone.

What ever business you are in, ultimately it is the business of influence.

What influence are you having on your team and your members?

Do you radiate positive energy or are you a "Psychic Vampire"?

10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence

Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

Build Self Confidence

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

Reference:-

http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/10-ways-to-instantly-build-self-confidence/

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Does your brain have "The Happiness Advantage"?
"Research shows that when your brain is affected positively it performs significantly better than when negative, neutral or stressed."




"If happiness is on the other side of success, your brain never gets there."

What we need to cultivate is an attitude of gratitude and stop focusing on all the negative events occurring. They will happen regardless of whether we give them attention or not. If we really look for them there are plenty of positive things to concentrate on.We get more of what we focus on. So what are you putting your attention on?

Gloom Busting!

Are you tired of the tabloids dominating and dictating the mood of the country? This blog was created to provide an antidote to the doom and gloom. Here you can find inspiration, motivation and education. It is dedicated to those interested in personal development and those who want to learn how to tap into their full potential. So when you find your attitude slipping and you feel overwhelmed by all the negative, come and check in here for an injection of positive.

For a few short weeks in the summer of 2012 something remarkable happened. Britain was united in a way that has rarely been seen. The Olympic spirit transformed the nation! With its "Inspire a Generation" mission statement, outstanding sporting endeavour and an army of friendly volunteers, we had for a short period of time, a real sense of community and togetherness.




In London, people even smiled and talked to each other! The palpable "feelgood factor" even converted the anti Olympic lobby and pessimistic gloom merchants who predicted transport chaos and probable security issues. Even the notoriously fickle British weather played its part in ensuring a brief period of magnificence. It became a national party that nobody wanted to end, but sadly, end it did and the debate became one of legacy. Would it "inspire a generation"? Certainly we hope that it will encourage more people to get active and take part in sport but more than that would it be possible to re capture the spirit of inspiration? The Olympics showed that day in day out 80,000 people would gather to cheer and support not just our own athletes but those of every nation. They created a sporting environment that allowed and encouraged Olympians and Paralympians to produce world beating best performances, the power of being inspired and encouraged.

The British press for a short time forgot their raison d'etre of filling the papers and TV coverage with doom and gloom. Every day was a day for front page coverage of gloriously uplifting performances. We even forgot we were supposed to be depressed and in the teeth of the world's worst recession. Is it possible to somehow recreate those feelings? When it all ended and Britain got back to "normal" with front pages being dominated by death, destruction and financial meltdown, I can't be the only one who wished it could be different? And it can.

We create our world. We create our reality. The Stock Markets are fragile and can be talked up or down. "Confidence" is the critical word. If we can talk and think our way into recession (and it's been clearly demonstrated that we can) why don't we focus on more positive outcomes for ourselves?

"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world" - Buddha